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12月31日 InsightsThe psychology of the human mind is truly boggling. It is hard to resist the temptation to conclude when one carefully considers and compares one's own life experience with those of others, that there is evidence of a pervasive pattern of curious behaviour that afflicts a great many people; a kind of personal weakness lodged deeply in the human psyche; an ailment that equips us with an innate aversion to kindness and love, and seems to push us toward the comfort, constancy, and familiarity of apathy and sometimes neglect.
On the whole it seems to be that a significant segment of humanity appears not to be wired to receive and accept real love, save perhaps from a pet; but not a fellow human being. Guards, suspicions and preconceptions distort and pervert the very image of love when it is expressed through another human's action. This characteristic may be present in all of us to some greater or lesser degree for it is a telling tale that when a dog gives us love, we endear it to our hearts, humanize it, and enfold it in our loving embrace. But when the same love is given by another person, it is often viewed with suspicion or rejected, and sometimes the trust and sincere offering that comes with that love is unintentionally abused. We have all seen it, either through our own experiences or through the experiences of those around us: the giver is sometimes emotionally kicked and thrown to the curb, and at times with some cruelty. But, how often do we see this when we do it to others? How readily do we see this weakness in ourselves?
We are more apt to believe in a love given unconditionally from a dog than we are from a person, and many of us cannot bring ourselves to believe in motiveless expressions of love shown towards us from another human being. For some, receipt of such expressions of love clash against internal feelings of unworthiness for such acts, and this seems to set up a cognitive dissonance in the mind of the recipient; an internal conflict that leads to arousal of suspicions and erosion of trust toward the giver. In a curious irony, this ultimately turns the heart of the recipient against the giver. Thus it would appear that, at least in love, many cannot bring themselves to trust, much less respect, their givers. Something appears to be fundamentally broken in the psychology of the human animal, and yet we still wonder why relationships are hard.
Might it then be possible that at some deep-seated instinctual level we are built to reject concrete and giving love in favour of some illusory ideals about love that we have somehow collectively cultivated in our minds? And, are we also relegated by our primitive natures to forever miss opportunities for love or reject love that is freely given in deference to our own internal feelings of inadequacy or suspicions? Might it be true that only a small segment of humanity have come to see the true meaning and substance of love, of giving, and of affection toward one another and such individuals amble through life longing, hoping to meet others who see the same light? 评论 (14)
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